Some of you have heard this before. So I apologize if you’re tired of hearing this one!

It was Saturday, February 15, 2003.

It was a friend’s birthday. So myself and 3 other girlfriends decided to hit up a local music venue to celebrate. We first went to the restaurant next door and ordered drinks.

After we were seated the server informed us that the restaurant was closing so if we wanted anything to eat, we’d better place our orders. We weren’t hungry so we continued catching up and enjoying our tasty drinks.

Then, another guy comes to the table. (it’s Tim!). I think he’s another server, since he’s in jeans and a t-shirt.

Again, tells us the kitchen is closing and to find out if we wanted anything to eat. So, I tell him, we’d be up for a dessert. I love dessert!

So he brings out  dessert. It’s cheesecake. And tells us that its his Aunt Joan’s famous recipe cheesecake. It’s delicious. Never was a fan of cheesecake. But this was SOME cheesecake.

So… few minutes pass, and we’ve pretty much devoured the cheesecake. And Tim comes back to check in on us. Asks how’s the cheesecake. And we’re all smiling and raving about it.

So, he pulls up a chair and strikes up lots of conversation. He’s totally genuine. And find out he’s a chef. (Hmm… so that got my attention. He’s handsome and… a handsome guy that can cook. Nice!)

He chats with all of us— talks about surfing, travelling, politics (yeah, politics!), and various things.

It was the first time in a long time that I was kinda smitten.

Felt that I had to ask this guy out.


After he left the table, I’m all giddy, and tell the gals that I’m going to ask him out. And they’re like “Oh yeah… he’s soo into you… do it.”

So, our server comes back and I drill him about Tim… does he have a girlfriend? Is he a player? Server tells me he’s single and definitely not a player.

So… I give my biz card to the server to give to Tim.

{ And then this is Tim’s side of the story: Tim gets the card and thinks the card is from my friend. Tells the server he’s not interested. And then the server’s like, no, its the blonde. And Tim’s goes, ok, yeah, she’s cute. }

So… Tim comes back into the restaurant. Jokes and tells me that I probably do this all the time. Then, he guides me over to the huge calendar, for the concert schedule at the venue next door. And we pick out when we’ll go on our date.

And so we hang out the rest of the night. He gives me a tour of  the concert venue backstage, where Erykah Badu, Etta James, and all the other musicians have hung out before their performances.

That was a night to remember. Can’t believe it was 9 years ago.

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Next Tuesday and Wednesday (Valentine’s and anniversary of meeting Tim will another “First.” (first Valentine’s without him/ First anniversary of when we met without him). I’ve been teary these past few days driving into work.

So stoked to have met Tim, but these “firsts” are always the reality check of this new life.

I’m going to end and leave you with this note that I got from Martha Beck, a famous writer/contributor to Oprah Magazine and speaker that I met back in December at the TEDX conference. I asked for her autograph and this is what she gave me. I cried after she gave this to me. It gives me comfort, courage and strength. And perhaps for you too.


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  1. missie February 8, 2012 at 7:44 am #

    Love reading your posts! You and Tim sure had something extra special!!! Xo

    • Michelle February 8, 2012 at 1:42 pm #

      Thanks Missie. Tim was definitely one-of-kind, super-duper-special in my book. And I was the lucky one.

  2. birdie February 8, 2012 at 11:55 am #

    oh sweet michelle i am sending all the hugs i have in me now —was this when he worked at pampel moose(spelling not sure)—missing him too–just breathe deep and remember his smile —

    • Michelle February 8, 2012 at 1:41 pm #

      Hello Birdie! Thanks for reading and the nice hugs. It was the Belly Up & Wild Note Café.

  3. sharon mckellar February 8, 2012 at 4:51 pm #

    one of my favoritest songs of all times.

    • Michelle February 8, 2012 at 11:11 pm #

      Right on, Sharon. I dig that song and the lyrics. And for some reason, I feel like Tim listened to that group too. Thanks for sharing that. It my new favoritest too. Big hug back to you awesome lady!

      • sharon mckellar February 9, 2012 at 2:45 pm #

        awww yay. so glad you like it. i am really loving your blog. thanks for sharing everything so publicly. xxoo <3

  4. Tanya February 8, 2012 at 11:15 pm #

    I can hear and read this “First” time you met Tim a million times!! I love that story!! Thanks for sharing the note, too. Words to live by. Sending you all our love.

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